Things That I Have Learned About Myself After Being In A Relationship For A Year.
“I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together.” Lisa Kleypas
The year has been exciting, emotional, amazing, challenging, frustrating, enchanting, surprising, and about fifty other adjectives that range from great to terrible. But it has all been worth it. And it has been one of the greatest learning experiences of my life. Here are some of the things that I have learned.
I eat so much more than he does.
I boyfriend proofed my house. I hid everything that I did not want him to see. Don’t hide things that you use every day because you will need them and have to look for them in the middle of the night.
Character is important – loyalty, discipline, values, integrity, kindness and humility.
Intelligence is also important.
I still take my make up off after he goes to sleep.
One of you is going to be the sloppy one. Yes, my purse looks like an episode of hoarders. The other one will cook.
It is true that I have way too many pillows on my bed. They are all my favorite pillows. I like to have my pillows arranged in a particular way because I am a terrible sleeper and I feel it helps. He can sleep with any pillow. It works.
Laughing is great. We can both laugh at ourselves. Sometimes I laugh when I am by myself and I think of something funny that he said earlier. It’s a little weird.
We have the same taste in music. Not the regular stuff that everyone likes but also Tom Waits and Bach.
We have similar taste in clothes but he puts them together better now. I like having a blank canvas to work with.
There are people who leave things open – toothpaste, vitamins, cabinets and people who do not.
An argument is an annoying learning opportunity. We don’t have them often.
There is a difference between a red flag and a human flaw. Being in a relationship doesn’t fix anyone’s flaws.
Beautiful flowers always work when you make a mistake.
We are going to continue to get to know each other – the good and the bad. It’s a process. Relationships get real. I’m learning that.